73rd Lesson
Addiction: the 'cancer' that will slowly destroy you. So what will drive you into it's evil clutches?
Too often people who become addicted to something is due to lack of self-esteem, lacking the willpower to overcome something in their life which has knocked them down. Sometimes a series of
cascading events that inflict serious emotional trauma that solace is sought in some form of escapism. Of all addictions this is the worst, because the victim lacks the desire to get on top of it
when it provides the temporary release for the some of the harsh realities of life. Usually, this involves illegal drugs. Pop a few pills, or inject some noxious substance. Either way, it gives
user what he, or she wants.
But other forms of addiction can be almost as bad. Alcohol gives a similar effect but is not quite as addictive as drugs, which are the quick fix, as opposed to alcohol which is a slow descent
into a delirious slumber. People will drink heavily for various reasons, and not just out of self-pity. Paradoxically, it may be that you are reacting to the adverse conditions that exist in your
life, and alcohol can actually feel more liberated - albeit and only while you are conscious.
Other forms of addiction are driven by the desperation to escape from your environment and indulge in something that excites or gives you some form of pleasure, or even a feeling of misplaced
empowerment. Your physical needs will drive you towards carnal encounters with other people. Gambling will be there to give you the feeling you may just get lucky, and win enough money to help you
make the changes in your life - ones that you are so inept at achieving yourself by effort and endeavour.
Of other types of addiction, I would actually classify them as madness. I put greed into this category. But see Lesson 79 to read more about this, and similar other conditions that are driven
by the desire to keep doing what you are doing, usually to the detriment of those who suffer because of the manic demands of an out-of-control personality.
Whatever the addiction, it has to be broken (unless of course it gives you some perverse pleasure and you accept it can eventually destroy you). Breaking addiction has to be done gradually.
there is no 'emergency brake', you cannot just stop in an instant. You will also need support and someone, if possible, to monitor you. In this respect, entering a clinic that treats specific types
of addiction may be your only solution. But in all situations, the mind has to be fixed before the body can try to heal itself. And while this is an obvious conclusion, it takes 'two to tango', as
they sometime say. In other words, one half of a partnership to deal with your addiction if going to fail if the other half cannot keep their part of the contract.
So what happens if the addict cannot be cured, has no desire or stamina to last the course? Life is full of pitfalls, and when you drop into some deep dark hole, you need to find the desire to
escape from it. But if that desire does not exist, or you give up trying, then you are lost forever. Perhaps it is a death wish and eventually you get what you want. I hope you never find yourself
in this type of nightmare where the only escape is to end it all.